Non-violent communication this term stands for the communication which is done between individuals without any type of violence and other abusive words. The term non-violent communication was used by Mahatma Gandhi . He always used the path of non-violence and truth.
According to him with non-violent communication also known as NVC we learn to hear our own deeper needs and those of others. In short non-violent communication doesn’t requires any medium of communicating to others on the grounds of violence and abusive language.
Through its emphasis on deep
listening—to ourselves as well as others—NVC helps us discover the depth of our
own compassion. This language reveals the awareness that all human beings are
only trying to honour universal values and needs, every minute, every day.
NVC can be seen as both a spiritual practice that helps us see our common
humanity, using our power in a way that honours everyone’s needs, and a
concrete set of skills which help us create life-serving families and
communities.
The form is simple, yet powerfully transformative. Nonviolent Communication
contains nothing new. It is based on historical principles of nonviolence– the
natural state of compassion when no violence is present in the heart. NVC
reminds us what we already instinctively know about how good it feels to
authentically connect to another human being.
Non-violent communication focuses on three aspects of communication:
1. Self-empathy – your deep and compassionate awareness of your inner experience
2. Empathy – your ability to listen to another person with deep compassion
3. Honest Self-expression – your ability to express yourself truthfully in a manner that can inspire compassion in others.
Four basic steps of non-violent communication:
- Observe the situation objectively: It means that whatever the situation is it should be observed clearly. Suppose if you are somewhere at a public place, what do you need to do? Just a simple thing. Just observe the people there, how they are speaking and behaving in contrast to that you should have to behave as a mature person. If someone is abusing then you shouldn’t do the same. This is the very first step of non-violent communication. Observe and then react maturely.
- State how the observation is making you feel: How you feeling at that place is very important. You should make yourself comfortable at that place. Feeling is different from thinking. Instead of judging, criticizing, or blaming yourself or the other person in your mind, identify and express how your observation is making you feel. The goal here is not to shame others, but to help identify what you or the other person is feeling at any given moment.
- Connect with a need: Connect the observation and feeling with a need that is not being met. When connecting your observation and feeling with a need, you can state your need or try guess what the other person needs.
- Make a request: After stating your observation, feeling, and need, it is time to ask specifically and clearly what you need or want from the other person. Avoid saying what you don’t want. The goal here is to attempt to motivate the person out of willingness and compassionate giving, instead of fear, guilt, shame or obligation.
NVC PRACTICE.
Nonviolent Communication (abbreviated NVC, also called Compassionate Communication or Collaborative Communication) is an approach to nonviolent living developed by Marshall Rosenberg beginning in the 1960s.
In short NVC aims to support change on three interconnected levels: within self, between others, and within groups and social systems. NVC is taught as a process of interpersonal communication designed to improve compassionate connection to others.
Practitioners also emphasize that it can have many beneficial ” effects” as a spiritual practice, as a set of values, as parenting best practices, as a tool for social change, as a mediation tool, as an educational orientation, and as a worldview.
